Would you wanna lose it???
I speak about the memories of love lost. Bitter breakups have for long tortured the human mind by bringing up sweet memories at all sorts of moments - least expected. But even then, even with the worst breakup aren't there always pleasant memories which we wouldn't care to lose.
This thought struck me yesterday after seeing the movie which dealt with the same topic. And I think if they ever managed to make a machine which would have someone go through all their memories of the relation we would never see a relation fail. Inevitably when a relation goes sour its because we forget the reason we originally fell in love with the person in the first place, the things that once delighted us become the very things we cant stand. And the things that we hid from each other in the beginning, thinking they were small issues end up causing walls the length of the 'Great Wall'.
After seeing the movie, I went and lay down on my mattress in my home away from home away from home :) and the I tried going over the special moments I have shared with the few women who came to mean more to me then anyone else in my life. And the more I thought about them the more I realised that in almost every relation I have had, I have grown into a better person through their influences. Even if they havent always ended the way I would have wished, they have always left me with a part of themselves sometimes silly others extremely nice.
It would be so useful to be able to go over your life, just looking in as you traversed the roads. See where you made your mistakes, see if you learned from them and if not make a note to learn and never repeat them (well maybe not never, but atleast try and avoid repeating them). See the hidden moments that passed which you missed, the signals given that were never heeded.
Yes it would be a beautiful thing indeed. And in this light would you actually wanna forget these memories. Imagine losing a person you love, and thinking the solution to avoid the pain is to simply have the memories of having ever loved the person removed completely. Its a frightening thought, and at times when we feel like taking such a drastic step the thought that should come to our minds, corny as it may be is 'It is better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all'.
This thought struck me yesterday after seeing the movie which dealt with the same topic. And I think if they ever managed to make a machine which would have someone go through all their memories of the relation we would never see a relation fail. Inevitably when a relation goes sour its because we forget the reason we originally fell in love with the person in the first place, the things that once delighted us become the very things we cant stand. And the things that we hid from each other in the beginning, thinking they were small issues end up causing walls the length of the 'Great Wall'.
After seeing the movie, I went and lay down on my mattress in my home away from home away from home :) and the I tried going over the special moments I have shared with the few women who came to mean more to me then anyone else in my life. And the more I thought about them the more I realised that in almost every relation I have had, I have grown into a better person through their influences. Even if they havent always ended the way I would have wished, they have always left me with a part of themselves sometimes silly others extremely nice.
It would be so useful to be able to go over your life, just looking in as you traversed the roads. See where you made your mistakes, see if you learned from them and if not make a note to learn and never repeat them (well maybe not never, but atleast try and avoid repeating them). See the hidden moments that passed which you missed, the signals given that were never heeded.
Yes it would be a beautiful thing indeed. And in this light would you actually wanna forget these memories. Imagine losing a person you love, and thinking the solution to avoid the pain is to simply have the memories of having ever loved the person removed completely. Its a frightening thought, and at times when we feel like taking such a drastic step the thought that should come to our minds, corny as it may be is 'It is better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all'.
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